A lot of men want to be better in bed. This is pretty understandable. For some, it is an ego thing. For others, it is simply about finding the best way to pleasure their partner. When it comes to sex, one of the primary differences between men and women is the genitals. Since men tend to have an extra “attachment” (the penis), knowing how to use this properly is going to be a point that can make all the difference when things are going on in the bedroom. However, men should also probably consider the fact that the penis is not the only tool they have in their sexual arsenal.
Quite a few men suffer from premature ejaculation. They get incredibly excited and then end up coming long before their partner has. This can lead to a lot of frustration and resentment in a relationship and is, therefore, something that needs to be worked on. This can be remedied through “practicing” with self-restraint (which often involves a lot of masturbating!). However, you can also use some other aids to ensure that things go smoothly. One of the best remedies is to get thicker condoms. Since condoms can generally dull the sensitivity that someone has, they can be used to stop premature ejaculation.
Your thrusting technique is also something that needs to be worked on. Sex isn’t a simple and quick “in and out” experience. You need to put your penis in and explore the vagina (or anus, if that is what you are going for). Yes, you do want to enhance your own pleasure but you also want to make sure that your partner is experiencing a similar level of ecstasy.
Your body has a lot of other implements which can be of great help to you and your partner during sex. Don’t always focus on the penis. Being skilled with your fingers, for example, is something that a lot of women tend to appreciate. You can speak to your partner about how she does it and see if you can emulate that. In fact, communicating while you are using your fingers will not only bring you closer but can create some sounds of pleasure that may end up rocking the roof! In cases like this, we would also recommend that you try and at least do it in a soundproof area!
For oral, the tongue is a very strong muscle that can also be of use. Women really appreciate men who are skilled in the use of their tongue. Again, all you need to do is ask for direction. Many women are more than happy to give it to their men, even during the act.
You’ll be surprised at just how much you can achieve by talking about things and then getting in on the action! Sex is, in fact, a zone where you should put your ego aside. You will be surprised just how much pleasure it can be for the two of you.