Human beings are sexual creatures, that is a proven fact, just ask the cavemen that used to drag around their women back in the stone age. Sex has been high priority forever, thanks to Adam and Eve with the forbidden fruit, that just tastes so darn sweet. The hard truth is that alternative lifestyles weren’t always accepted in society, and even now not all are, but that’s just something everyone knows and life goes on with or without society’s approval. Worrying about what other people think of your lifestyle is ridiculous, just do whatever you’re comfortable with and don’t worry about Ms. Betty Lou in curlers down the street that snubs her nose at you and your life. Stuff a sock in it Betty Lou!
Being a swinger is just one way we’ve evolved over the years and become more open to our sexual selves. Yes, swinging has been around for decades, but not as openly accepted as it is now. I’m not saying that everyone approves, and that everyone should try it, but those of us that do enjoy it, enjoy it. If you want the technical definition for it, here you go per Wikipedia, “Swinging, also known as wife swapping or partner swapping, is a non-monogamous behaviour in which both singles and partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity.” There you go, technical terminology at its best.
As a swinger for the last decade or so, I’ve learned a great many things about myself and others that I never would have imagined before. My husband and I have been married over 20 years and have been in the lifestyle since the late 90’s shortly after we were married. When I first introduced it to him, we had a rough start to the lifestyle, but eventually we learned the ropes and met some wonderful lifetime friends and we are still very active in it today.
The one thing that I feel I need to point out is that jealousy has no room in the swinging lifestyle, it can only tear your relationship apart and the whole experience can leave a bad taste in your mouth, and scars that you won’t be able to erase. Also, unless you both decide, always practice safe sex when engaging in sexual activities even if you despise condoms or other such items, do not play with your life or someone else’s in that way.
I could go on and on about the do’s and don’ts of the lifestyle, but boring you is not what I want to do. If you want to engage in the lifestyle with your partner, be sure to talk to other swingers, read stories, lots of stories, and check out as many websites and blogs as you can before you take that leap. The biggest thing to remember when deciding to experiment with the lifestyle is to communicate completely with your partner, never, ever lose that line of communication, it’s the only way to understand exactly what you both are looking for with the experience and it is important to enjoy every aspect as much as humanly possible. After all, we only have this lifetime to work with, so make it count, every little bit of it. Good luck!
Written by guest writer Dawn M.
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