A man having a mistress tends to have a mixture of both stigma and glamour about it. This often comes from the fact that when you consider affairs, men tend to be demonised a lot less (completely unfair, we know!). The stigma is a lot more understandable: having a mistress often involves lying and cheating and keeping the other partner in the dark about a secret affair. Feelings can get hurt, relationships are torn apart and lives ruined.
But enough about the bad stuff.
It may surprise you to learn that there are also benefits to having a mistress (or a “side-chick”, as some slang might reveal…). One of the first things to remember, however, is that it doesn’t necessarily have to be non consensual or break any agreements: in fact, there are a lot of couples who have side partners for whatever reason. Despite the stigma of having multiple relationships, the most important thing here is to ensure that all parties involved are fully aware of the situation. This is usually where we can move on to the more beneficial aspects!
Having a Mistress – A Taste of Something Different
Sex, like anything, is meant to be enjoyed. Although you may enjoy one particular thing and have quite a lot of it (and enjoy having it regularly), it can sometimes get a little boring and you may want to mix things up a bit. This is often where having a mistress can be great for a man: he has a taste of someone different who can possibly open his mind to new things. These things can even then be brought into his main relationship (particularly in the bedroom…).
This kind of excitement does a lot of people good. A different kind of sex and a new body to fondle and enjoy can generally boost the mood.
Surprisingly, Affairs Can Save Relationships
This is a tricky one. We’re not encouraging anyone to cheat on their partners: from the get go, it is important, to be honest about what you are doing and what you’re looking for. Those who are in relationships and who are ethically seeking someone else as a side partner will not only enjoy the benefits of experiencing something new, but it can also show them a large contrast to what they have at home. You can see whether the grass really is greener on the other side.
There are all kinds of agreements that go into having an “ethical affair”. Usually, the mistress, in this case, will be made aware that she is indeed a mistress and that the relationship can only go so far. Sometimes, the mistress and the wife or girlfriend may meet up and become friends… Although this is something that some men may want to avoid. In cases like this, strict boundaries are usually set!
At the end of the day, it is important to weigh the pros and cons. Having a mistress can bring huge benefits to your relationship – but also great risk!