Keeping Sex and Love Separate


Can you have sex without falling in love? Can you stay in love without having sex? Can you have one without the other or will they always intertwine?

Can we keep sex and love separate?

This is the question that people are asking and most of the time they always intertwine eventually if not right away. And women are known to be more prone to fall in love with their “fuck buddy” than men.

Scientists have noticed this weird phenomenon and started studying the brain activity during sex to figure out this mystery and have found some interesting factors. Apparently during orgasm, it was found that different parts of the brain were activated and parts of the body were also aroused.

Scientists found that there were up to 30 different parts of the brain that trigger satisfaction, emotion, joy, touch and memory are activated. They’ve also discovered that when women are sexually aroused, the female nervous system becomes numb which makes the woman feel more pleasure instead of pain.

During sex, the key hormone that’s released in women is the bonding hormone or ‘cuddle hormone’ scientifically known as oxytocins. Women produce this hormone a lot more than men for reasons still unclear. So when oxytocins are released during intercourse, it lowers your defences, letting your guard down and makes you trust other people. And that is when the woman ends up falling in love with the man she’s with at that very moment.

On the other side of the fence, when a man reaches orgasm, the pleasure hormone known as dopamine is released instead of oxytocins. So when all they experience is pure pleasure without other hormones in the way, men can get addicted to such pleasures from having sex.

So biologically speaking, it’s easier for men to keep sex and love separate whereas it’s more difficult for women to do the same.

On the opposite side of the spectrum, if you’re in love but you don’t have sex, can your relationship last? Let’s say you and your partner are in two different countries, working on your long distance relationship. Can you withstand your sexual urges and sexual needs? What if your sexual relationship used to be active but due to distance or other circumstances, you can’t have sex with your partner? Despite all these difficulties, you still love your partner but you need human intimacy, to be touched, to be kissed, to be aroused, to have sexual relief… what then?

Unfortunately science can’t answer these questions.

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