In the light of having recently entered a relationship with a shy woman, and having a long and painful history of relationships with shy women, this article might just be the most excruciating thing I’ve ever written.
I’m positive a lot of you were or still are in my position. You’re probably wondering how to get your girlfriends to have sex with you, particularly if they never had any. Tricky business, but not impossible.
There are quite a few things you can do. Bear with me, and I’ll turn you into a scholar.
- Don’t force her
This will only culminate with you being single. Girls tend to back out if you look at them like they’re walking pieces of meat. Give her time. If she’s never had sex, she’s going to need a lot of it.
But forcing won’t help. When she’s ready, you’ll know it. It’s not much of an instruction, really. It’s more common sense, I guess, but it doesn’t hurt to mention it, especially when some males are going all guns blazing on their girlfriends and end up with the guns still loaded.
- Talk to her
Try to make her understand that it’s not nearly as painful as she thinks it is. The vast majority of them are not afraid of sex per se; they’re just afraid it’s going to hurt. And it won’t, if you’re gentle.
- Make her want it
Let’s face it. If men want to have sex, they have a lot of tools to use to the end of getting their partners in bed. Enacting long sessions of what normally would be foreplay to a long series of Oh God’s can do wonders.
Before you know it, she’ll mount you and rip the clothes off of you. No fear, Shakespeare. None at all. Again, be gentle and don’t give her the impression that you’re turning into a werewolf.
- Build it towards the purpose
This is a relatively easy thing to do. As time passes by, she’ll become comfortable enough with you. You can use this in your favour. For example, you can see each other naked. If she faints, it’s okay. It’s good practice for orgasms, anyway.
All jokes aside, time heals all. The only thing you’re not allowed to do is force your partner to do something she clearly isn’t ready to do. She doesn’t need to be a virgin to be shy. Women have this tendency, and it’s one of the main reasons why we love them so.
Sex is at once highly spiritual and as mundane as a shoe. Some girls need more time than others, and that’s not something you can change. But of course, there are some that are never ready.
That’s when you have a problem that needs to be addressed. If your partner is shy, on the other hand, it’s just a matter of time. You can play the waiting game or make her feel more comfortable with the thought that sex is the most normal thing ever.