Gay Swinger Party. It may not surprise you to learn that the gay scene is quite big on swinging: and naturally, this tends to be more gay men than anything else. For anyone who is dipping their toes into the gay swinging scene in Australia, there are probably a lot of questions that you may want to have answered. This is understandable, especially considering that it covers two niches of sexuality: swingers and gay men.
While swinging can occur between small groups of consenting couples – or even between two couples who are friends – it can sometimes be a bit overwhelming when it comes to finding other couples who want to get down to swinging. For the most part, online communities are usually the best places to find these. But once you have actually found a swinger party, what is the etiquette? Is there a different sort of etiquette when it comes to gay swinger parties, as opposed to heterosexual ones?
Gay Swinger Parties – Where To Begin
The first rule of any swinger party -regardless of what orientation you are- is not to be late. Swinger parties tend not to go on all night, so you will need to ensure that you and your partner make it on time. Of course, we’re all human so if you do end up delayed then make sure that you tell the host beforehand. Don’t just turn up two hours late. When you do, you will, of course, find the party in full swing (pun intended) and may feel out of sorts. Usually, a specific kind of “vibe” will already be underway. It is best to be there from the beginning.
It’s Not a Free-for-All!
It is true that when it comes to sexuality, gay men tend to be a lot more liberal about who they have sex with. In general, the gay community tends to be far more open to the concept of polyamory and open relationships in general. However, when at a gay swinger party it is still important to restrain yourself. Do not engage in a sex scene without being invited: you will also want to ensure that you get an invite from a couple who are busy with each other.
Accept “No” As An Answer
There is nothing worse than someone who is desperate. If you feel like you want to join in with a particular act or scene, then simply ask. However, if you are not explicitly invited or even if you are denied, make sure that you accept it! Being rude and aggressive will not only make people not want to have sex with you… It may also get you thrown out!
Gay swinger parties are not that very different from regular ones. However, some dynamics may be a little different. It can totally depend on the people who are involved as well, so this is important to keep in mind. And last but not least, go in with a bit of humor and remember that it’s fun!
