Having a friend with benefits can seem like a dream come true for many people. The term refers to having a person or friend with whom you can indulge in casual sex – without the obligations of a relationship and/or romantic attachment. For those who like regular, consistent sex this can be a great alternative especially if they feel that they are not ready for a relationship.
However, there are a few things to consider.
Be Open and Clear
Being open, clear and honest about your feelings is important when it comes to a sexual relationship of this kind: if you do start to feel something more for your partner, it may be time to end the casual relationship. That is, of course, unless the two of you decide that you like the idea of being in a relationship together. However, make sure that both parties are interested: nobody wants to be roped into a relationship that they don’t want.
Keep Even Contact Casual
If you meet and get to know someone with the intention of keeping the sex casual, then it may be worthwhile to keep your contact casual as well. In other words, keep your interactions solely focused on sex and having a good time.
Communicate If One of You Is Unsatisfied
There’s nothing worse than unsatisfying sex… especially when it is in a relationship that purely revolves around it! Don’t be afraid to talk about what it is you’re into and what you’d like to do. After all, this is a relationship in some respects and if one person isn’t getting what they need, then it may be time to seek out other options – or at least, talk and see how things can change to ensure satisfying sex for all!